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Social quandary: My roommate never cleans

She doesn't wash the dishes, doesn't take out the garbage, and she leaves leftover food crumbs on the kitchen counter for days. Confronting her hasn't worked — what can be done?

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Quandary:

I’ve lived with my roommate for 2 years, and when we first moved in together she joked that she didn’t like to clean. I dismissed it at the time, but it turned out to be so true! When she cooks, she leaves food crumbs left over everywhere. For example, she grated cheese a few days ago and there’s bits of cheese still sitting on the counter. She leaves dirty dishes in the sink, doesn’t take out the garbage — basically, I’m left doing all the housework. I confronted her about it one day and she agreed to a routine where we’d take turns cleaning week-by-week. It worked for a month, and then she went back to her old ways. I even suggested she hire a maid service to clean in her place, but she refused. I can’t afford to live on my own in the city, and I love the place I live in. Plus, I don’t want the hassle of finding a new roommate — besides her messy habits, we get along great. Can anyone recommend a system of cleaning that ensures she does her share of the housework?

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