Sex & Relationships

Wise guys

How do you get comfortable with your guy's best girl friends? Our all-male panel discusses this and other love dilemmas.

Dear Wise Guys:
Recently, I’ve been getting a lot closer with a certain male friend of mine. We’ve gone out on a few dates and spend a lot of time talking, flirting and discussing the types of things we’d like to do in the future. The only problem is that his best friends are all female. I am slightly uncomfortable with this because, although I know these women, we are only acquaintances. I don’t know if I like the idea of him confiding in them about the details of our relationship. Am I worrying needlessly over something that’s not really a big deal?


Dave, a happily married man, says:
The question you should ask him right away is how your relationship with each other differs from his relationship with his “best friends.” If he has a past – or worse, a present – with any of them, then, yes, you should be worried. Why is he so close with formerly intimate partners? Otherwise, become good friends with these women, too. It’s bad form to talk about relationship issues when everyone involved is a friend.

Bruce, a pal to countless gals, says:
In a word? Yes. It’s natural for men to discuss their love lives with their buddies – whether they’re guy or gal pals – and there isn’t much you can do to stop them. On the bright side, he’s less likely to dish about the spicier details of your romance to women than men, for fear of looking insensitive, and his gal pals should have good advice for him on how to treat you right. So don’t fear the sisters – embrace them!

Patrick, brother of two sisters, says:
You’re off to a fantastic start. You know that his friends will be privy to what you earn, whom you loathe, the things you enjoy (and say!) in the sack, and you still haven’t destroyed his phone number or the cellphone it’s stored in! As long as he makes you happier than his friends make you unhappy, you’re coming out ahead. There is so much to gain here and so little to lose that you should just be upfront and tell him your concerns (and make it clear you’re not being jealous). Then love like no one’s watching!