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In a perfect world, we would control everything that happens to us. In reality, we need strategies to help us cope with times when stuff just comes out of the blue. Like the mud-puddle heroine's soap, your secret to handling everything life throws at you is to establish and enforce boundaries that you live by, no exceptions.
Many of my clients are women to whom "stuff just happens." One client agreed to take on a big project in spite of the fact that it involved travel and weekend work. Another client felt obligated to volunteer at a school event although it interfered with the time she spent with her husband.
In a world where a lot of our work goes unappreciated, such as picking up dirty socks or driving kids to practice, we sometimes overcommit ourselves elsewhere in order to get the recognition we desire. That's why we often let our ego respond to a request before our brain, because we like to feel needed and indispensable.Karen Wright is a professional coach specializing in life balance and improved workplace culture.
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