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You be the expert

Tell us what you'd do and your answer might be featured in the August issue of Chatelaine magazine!

By Chatelaine Updated April 25, 2005

You be the expert

Tell us what you’d do and your answer might be featured in the August issue of Chatelaine magazine!

My friend’s boyfriend tried to kiss me. I ignored him, but I’m worried he’ll do it again. Should I confront him and should I tell my friend?
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