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My cousin has a good job working as a physiotherapist at a hospital. She’s been the sole breadwinner of her family for as long as I can remember. Over the years, my cousin has alluded to having money troubles, but being the private person that she is, she has never shared more than that. Through family gossip, I’ve learned that her husband controls the finances, but doesn’t earn much of it and can be quite lazy. He works mostly contract positions in general labour and warehouse work, and never for more than a few months at at time. And as far as I know, he hasn’t ever tried to gain steady, full-time work before. Recently, my cousin asked if I would provide her husband with a reference. I have a prominent job and I’m in a position to provide good references – but given his work record, I’m reluctant. Any reference I give him could badly reflect on me. Should I just hope for the best and give him a chance? Or should I politely decline (and what’s the best way to do that)?
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