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Quandary of the week:
My friend and I have been friends for a very long time. Growing up in the tropics, we both had housekeepers to keep our houses clean and tidy. My friend got accustomed to that lifestyle and even though it’s been 25 years since emigrating, she’s still reluctant to clean her own house! I know it may sound a bit judgmental, but it’s so dirty it makes it difficult for me to want to visit her. Even her brother feels the same way; he and his wife were visiting and planned to stay at her house for two weeks, but they took one look at the mess and went to a hotel instead. I’ve suggested they get a cleaning lady — someone to help out even if it’s just once a month. But her husband is frugal, and they don’t mind the mess they live in. These last several years, I started to decline her invitations to visit. Recently, she started reaching out again to invite me over. I don’t want to continue refusing her invites, but I’m not sure what to do. I honestly cringe every time I step into her house. So now she’s throwing a party for her youngest son and has invited me over. Should I just suck it up and go, even though I’ll be uncomfortable the whole time? Is there a way of politely telling someone that their house is just too dirty?
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