It's normal for your sex drive to wax and wane throughout your pregnancy. Some women say they could easily live without sex for the whole nine months while others find they've got a huge sexual appetite. Many women have told me pregnancy sex is among the best, because they aren't worrying about birth control and also because it's easier to orgasm with the increased blood in the pelvic region. You're about to undergo some dramatic body changes. The size and hue of your genitals might change; they may get larger and darker. And your breasts may dramatically increase in size. If they were sensitive before pregnancy, they'll probably be more sore to the touch now.
With larger breasts, luminous skin and thick hair, some women feel especially sexy during pregnancy. Your partner's response to your growing belly may also influence how you feel about your new shape. He may act as if he can't get enough of your pregnant body or he could shy away from sex because he's worried that intercourse might hurt you or the baby.
If you're too uncomfortable to have intercourse but you want to stay sexually connected to your partner, it's time to get creative. Try engaging in more oral and manual stimulation with lubricants to vary the sensation. You can also try the silicone vagina. It's a 12-centimetre, soft stretchy sleeve with a gently ribbed shaft that resembles the natural ridges of a woman's vagina. Apply a generous amount of warmed water-based lubricant into the silicone vagina and slip the snug sleeve over your partner's erect penis. Then move the sleeve up and down while gently rotating it. Silicone vaginas are available at sex toy stores or online at www.comeasyouare.com (look for the Purple Iris) and www.loupaget.com (look for the Pink Elephant).
Lou Paget is a sex educator and the best—selling author of The Big O (Broadway).
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