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I was in a relationship when I first met my friend *Dale, about 5 months ago. We hit it off right away because we have many of the same interests, which eventually led to us hanging out more — as just friends, of course. When Dale went travelling, we kept in touch over Facebook and we’d catch-up in person between his trips. He’d always come back with a thoughtful gift for me. For instance, he knew how much I like photography, so he brought back a coffee table book by a well-known European photographer.
When my boyfriend and I broke up, Dale and I started hanging out more. We’d go out to eat at restaurants or for drinks, but it’d often be at upscale places that Dale likes going to. Then he would insist on paying for me because I can’t afford it — and he can. The problem is that I’m fairly certain he has grown to have romantic feelings for me. He’s asked me to be his date for an upcoming wedding, he’s always showering me with thoughtful gifts, and he’s even offered to take me on a trip, all expenses paid. I enjoy his company immensely, but I don’t see him in a romantic way — and he knows that. He’s such a generous person, but I’m worried that some of that generosity may be his attempt to win me over. Am I being too sensitive…maybe he enjoys being generous? Or do you think that, in accepting these presents, I’m leading him on?
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