Question of 6 On a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being highest), how sexy do you feel right now?
Mostly A's: You're discreetly sexy You like to canoodle with your honey, or feel the silky touch of lingerie against your skin, but you hesitate when it comes to displaying your sexy self in public. "Women who are shy about their sexiness often feel uncomfortable about their bodies," says Chanelle Gallant, a Toronto psychotherapist and Chatelaine's Ask an expert sex educator. Gallant says this hesitance can be attributed to a woman's low self-esteem or her concern that sexual expression conflicts with her morals. "Many women are held back by the idea that good girls don't. Remember that we have the choice to express our sexiness in a way that's aligned with our own values." Your sexy boost: "Rev up your confidence by picking one thing you like about your body and showing it off," suggests Gallant. "If it's your lips, put lipstick on in public, admiring yourself in a compact as you do. If it's your feet, treat yourself to the season's most gorgeous heels. Others will notice the things you feel sexy about." To find out which kind of relationship signals you're sending, check out our dating style quiz. Mostly B's: You're pretty sexy You've achieved that precarious balance between appreciating who you are and what you've got without falling into obnoxious, vanity-is-not-so-fair territory. "A woman who embraces her sexiness knows that every woman can be sexy," says Chanelle Gallant, a Toronto psychotherapist and Chatelaine's Ask an expert sex educator. "She knows that sexiness is about enjoying her body, not just about revealing it all." Your sexy boost: "Consider how else you could express your sexiness or vamp it up," suggests Gallant. "For example, become your sexiest role model for a night: dress up like her and take on a different name – this is key! Let yourself explore new hottie territory." For more ideas on how to add some sizzle to your relationship, read Spice it up tonight!. Mostly C's: You're REALLY sexy Anna Nicole Smith has nothing on you! You like to flaunt it, but is it okay to be sexy all the time? "Keep in mind that sex appeal can work against you in some environments, such as work and school," says Chanelle Gallant, a Toronto psychotherapist and Chatelaine's Ask an expert sex educator. While looking sexy can feel empowering, it may actually weaken your position with others. "People get uncomfortable because they're trying so hard not to stare at your body – they'll avoid eye contact and create more physical distance between the two of you." Your sexy, subdued: "Try wearing less-revealing clothing while keeping your sexual confidence in the way you move, walk and talk – that says enough," suggests Gallant. "Or pair a conservative outfit with a set of killer heels that let people know there's more than meets the eye." Reveal your sensual side in the privacy of your own home with 10 hot date flicks. | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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