For the boss
Do: If you feel a gift is appropriate, the tradition of chipping in for a group purchase will alleviate any pressure and keep your spending curbed.
Don’t: Get anything too intimate. Clothing, perfume or anything extravagant is a no-no.
For the in-laws
Do: Pay attention to their interests. If your mom-in-law has hinted that she’d like to take up golf, give her a book or a magazine subscription that relates to it.
Don’t: Give a vacuum cleaner. “This is what I think you need” can come across as passive-aggressive.
For the hostess
Do: Bring a small gift of wine, flowers or dessert when you’re invited to dinner. We love the idea of signing your wine bottle in gold ink or adding a nice card to a tin of cookies!
Don’t: Sweat it if you arrive empty-handed at a cocktail party. Experts agree a gift isn’t always necessary.