I'm having a girls' weekend at my cottage and one of my friends wants to bring her new baby boy. She is still breastfeeding and won't be able to come without him but I really wanted this to be a time for grown-ups only. I'm worried I'm being selfish if I ask her not to bring her son—am I?
There is a difference between self-preservation and selfishness. Know this: you're not being selfish. You're inviting your friends up to your cottage for a weekend and giving them a chance to get away from the stresses of everyday life. As a host, you want to help your guests focus on each other and your shared past. You probably want to relax, go on hikes and be spontaneous. And we all know that doesn't always happen when there's a baby around.